Common Obituary Mistakes
Writing an obituary under pressure makes it easy to slip up. Here are the most common obituary mistakes — and how to avoid them — so your tribute is accurate, respectful, and ready to publish.
Mistakes to avoid
Factual errors in names, dates, or relationships
Misspelled names, wrong dates, or incorrect "survived by" / "preceded by" lists are among the most common mistakes. Double-check with family members and official documents. Newspapers often charge for corrections.
Omitting key survivors or including the wrong people
Leaving out a spouse, child, or close relative can cause lasting hurt. Conversely, including someone the deceased was estranged from can create tension. Verify the full list with the immediate family.
Awkward or overly informal tone
Obituaries are public records. Avoid slang, inside jokes that readers won't understand, or a tone that feels too casual for the context. Aim for dignified and clear.
Making it about the writer instead of the person
The obituary should focus on the person who died. Avoid framing everything through "I" or "we" in a way that overshadows their life and character.
Missing service or visitation details
If there will be a funeral or celebration of life, include the date, time, and place. Readers need this information. Leaving it out is one of the most frustrating mistakes for those who want to pay respects.
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